Wednesday, February 25, 2009

sometimes irony just bites you in the butt

I mentioned how ironic it was that our first son died just a while after we had purchased a house and that we had just built a huge house and now Charles Jr. was struggling.

Well, now that Charles Jr. has passed away, we have decided NOT TO MOVE. Gads, everyone. Each time we move to a new home, we lose a child. What the heck is that?!?!?

So here we stay, if for no other reason than to protect our children.

I know that this is not a rational fear...that moving is not what caused our 2 son's deaths. I am just startled at how irony comes a haunting our lives.

We do not need to move. This house is big enough, especially now that one room is vacant.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

wow, things are happening...

Well things look bleak for the world.

With the loss of our son, we are still recovering. His death hit us completely off guard. He was supposed to be out of the woods. Now he is gone. Seeing his empty car seat when I walked by his room is what cracked my foundation yesterday. I walked into my room and I simply prayed.

I know I will be with him celestially. I my wife is still getting past things. Even anti-depressents have not helped her. She is struggling with it even now. She dreams about him and so do I. I have put her to work on the new office we are finishing. I explained to her that I needed help completing my new engineering office and that I had no one else to turn to. The truth of it is that I need to keep her occupied to get her out of this dark hole she has crawled into. I told her I had to get this office completed so I could produce more income. She has helped me paint and finish walls. By the end of the week, we should be ready to set up desks and move my computers and software in, at least that is the hope!

I am having trouble sleeping.

Financially, we have circled the wagons. I have frozen corporate plans to create any jobs. Instead, I have paid almost all debts off. I am now in a good position to weather the storm. We will, by the end of March, only owe about $5k. Given what we DID owe, this is miraculous. I have to say things have slowed down IMMENSELY. However, as of end of March, my ownly debt will be my home, of which I have paid 42%.

This is my testimony.

For all the lay people out there let me say this....

There is no bottom in sight for the crashing economy. We are headed down for the foreseeable future. The FIRST SIGN of the end of this downturn will be when the housing market bottoms out. I do not see this happening any time soon. We are headed down and the landing will be hard. Put your trays in their upright positions and place your head between your knees with your hands on top of your head...this landing will be rough. My advice? Buy enough food for 3 months for your family. We have (and with all the kids/ladies in our homes you can guess that this is a lot).

The first step to recovery, is banks lending.